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25 - CRITICAL DECISION PATHWAY

More important than speed in decision making is identifying and focusing on the critical pieces of information and your specific goals. Only after distinguishing between what is possible, what is probable and what is hoped for should you then decide on a course of action. You don’t ever need to let go of what is hoped for, but you must not let it blind you. Again, walk through your decisions with both shoes on.

26 - MAKING THE DECISIONS THAT ARE BEST FOR YOU

“Rational Choice Theory assumes that people make decisions by multiplying the probability of getting what they want by the amount of pleasure (utility) that getting it will bring."*9. This presupposes that one really knows what he/she wants, can tell the doctor and then can reliably extract the probability of getting it from their doctor. If you can’t communicate realistic goals, he has no chance of giving you realistic probabilities. Only you can figure this out and tell him.

SOME DEPRESSION IS NORMAL - TROUNCE IT

If you are normal you will get depressed and it will sap your vitality for a while, but you most likely will not stay that way. Bad news is depressing and only those who are either in denial or crazy don’t experience it. Many of us tread through life thinking of our bodies as something we can count on - or luxuriating in not thinking about them at all - just assuming: appetite will follow activity and the taste of food will not change; refreshment will follow on rest and strength will pretty much endure; biologic functions will be intact; no lumps, no pains, no panic.

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